Dear Abby: My boyfriend is charging me $300 to watch our children

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I’ve two kids and work reverse night shifts in order that one in all us is house with the youngsters always. Not too long ago, my greatest good friend from highschool stunned me with live performance tickets to our favourite band, however the live performance is on an evening I’m purported to be with the youngsters. 

I don’t have any buddies or household round to babysit the youngsters, so I requested my boyfriend if he would take the evening off in order that I can go to this live performance. He advised me the one method he would do that’s if I reimburse him for his missed wages (roughly $300). Do you assume it’s truthful to cost me to look at his personal kids? — CONFUSED IN NEW HAMPSHIRE

DEAR CONFUSED: Do you have to reimburse your boyfriend for the wages he’ll miss if he takes off work so you’ll be able to attend that live performance? If his employer doesn’t present for private day off, he can be out the cash, and since you’re the one altering your agreed-upon association, it’s best to reimburse him. What the 2 of you have to work out sooner or later is a few type of plan so your kids can be taken care of within the (hopefully unlikely) occasion that one thing ought to occur to each of you on the identical time.

DEAR ABBY: My spouse and I’ve lived in a rustic house for the previous 25 years. Once we moved right here, our solely neighbors have been wild turkeys, deer and raccoons. Behind our home have been 20 acres of woods, which prolonged right into a cornfield. We have been remoted and liked it. 

Since then, a housing growth has slowly been constructed round us. Final fall, a pair constructed a home behind us. Their rear deck is inside 20 toes of our property line. The again of their home has giant bed room home windows. They lower down the entire stunning, mature timber from their lot.

I’ve at all times had a dusk-to-dawn sensor mild on the rear of my home for safety causes and to dissuade raccoons. Now this couple is complaining that as a result of their home is so near my property line and the timber (which acted as a privateness barrier) are gone, my safety mild of 25 years is shining into their bed room home windows and disturbing them. They need me to eliminate it. 

After all, my angle is that we and that mild have been right here for 25 years. They noticed our home and property strains earlier than they selected to construct there and take away all their timber. I’m not inclined to accommodate them, however I’m open to strategies from you. — BRIGHT GUY IN OHIO

DEAR BRIGHT GUY: I do have one. Clarify to those new neighbors that your safety mild was put in to discourage trespassers and wild animals. Then counsel they set up blackout curtains or shutters of their bed room home windows to forestall undesirable mild from seeping in. If that doesn’t remedy the issue, and there’s a governing physique on your rising neighborhood, ask that the matter be mediated. 

Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.